I am not a therapist; my goal in these articles is to write based on conversations, experiences, observations, and following individuals who want to change our industry.
Jealousy is a typical emotion in any setting. Still, it can be especially in recruiting; yes, people could say it's just competitive, but no one wants to say out loud, "I am jealous of those who are getting attention, kudos, or acknowledgment you're your leadership team. Unfortunately, this happens no matter how much we make up excuses as to why. I am hoping this article will provide some comfort that you know that you are NOT alone and that it's a behavior that we can overcome this hidden behavior that no one wants to admit; together, let's help others when we see someone struggling instead tack advantage of those who are quieter.
When we feel jealous of someone else, we often compare ourselves to them and feel like we lack techniques. Jealousy can lead to emotions that could lead to self-sabotaging, self-doubt, insecurity, and apparent resentment, and if you say "BS," then you should pay more attention to the room; a person's body language can say a lot. If you're struggling with jealousy on your team, there are a few things you can do to overcome it or at least try. First, it's essential to understand why we feel jealous of others. Are we comparing ourselves to those with a better job, a title, or more recognition? Once you know the root of your jealousy, you can start to address it, and yes, it may take some time to change this behavior.
If you're feeling out of sorts of someone's success and think you could do a better job than them. It's important to remember that everyone has their unique journey, and there is a time and place to grow and not fall under this perception of unhealthy competition. Just because someone else is further along in their career doesn't mean they're better than you by far! Everyone in this industry has different strengths and weaknesses, and it's essential to focus on your strengths.
It's also important to remember that jealousy is a natural emotion; what you do with it could harm relationships and your chances of growth. Everyone occasionally feels jealous, which is ok; as I said, it's a natural human trait. This article is not to let jealousy control you. If you find yourself dwelling on your jealousy, take some time to step away from the situation and clear your head, take that vacation that you deserve, spend some self-reflection, do something that you enjoy, and come back to the case with a fresh perspective and offer support, be positive, be that colleague you want them to be to you. Make sense?
We all struggle at times to overcome jealousy; there are a few resources that can help. You can talk to a therapist, join a community group that focuses on helping others, and surround yourself with like-minded folks that can lift you, help you gain confidence, and remove that unhealthy jealousy. There are also books, articles, and inspirational speakers who speak about work jealously available. I enjoyed this audible:
We all know that jealousy is a normal emotion, but it doesn't have to control YOU or YOUR life. If you're struggling with envy in the workplace, there are steps you can take to overcome it. By understanding and owning your jealousy, let's address it, create a more positive and productive work environment for yourself, your mind, and others, and create more confidence in yourself!
Here are some additional tips to help you out:
- Celebrate other people's successes. Compliment them, learn from them, and grow. When you see someone else do well, be happy for them.
- Focus on YOUR goals. It's never a great way to compare yourself to others, so stop. Instead, focus on your GOALS and what you want to achieve; only you can do that.
- Be confident; remember that you got the job for a reason and are capable and talented. Don't let the FOMO make you doubt yourself; it will backfire evidentially.
- Talk to someone you have built trust and respect. If you're struggling with jealousy, talk to a friend, a mentor, a family member, or a therapist, it's not something to be afraid to address; it just shows strength. The folks you have in your life can help you understand your jealousy, develop strategies for dealing with it, and provide a safe space to grow without fear.
- Very important to hear this last tip: Take care of yourself and your heart. Make sure you are getting enough downtime, eating healthy, and getting out and enjoying life regularly. When you care for yourself, your heart, and your mind, you'll be better able to deal with difficult emotions like jealousy.
Jealousy is normal; it's uncomfortable, and it's not the best to admit it, but acknowledging it, is a strength. It can be a complex emotion to deal with, but it's important to remember that you're not alone, and those who have managed it could be a great learning for both; those who have been there and those who are dealing with it. We are many people who struggle with jealousy and with resources available to help overcome this emotion. Please, take this as part of my heart and good intentions; this is no judgment, just a topic we should be discussing and helping humans who struggle. With time and effort, you can manage your jealousy and create a more positive and productive work environment for yourself and those you work with.